Its what I do. Some people will find a way to stew things up no matter how you respond to it. I think the fact that the OP hasnt included one single possible reason for the lack of an invitation is pretty telling. Im independent as hell, go on ~one vacation and many business trips alone every year, and this would make me super irritated. Like I am a weak girlfriend. So my boyfriend of around 1.5 years attended a party tonight and he failed to extend an invitation to me. Only naive people agree to those situations. Gilda, Q: I caught my husband watching pornography online. I think the situation is crappy but we really dont know enough from her letter to tell whether its her being crappy or the SIL (or his entire family). This is completely cultural. But its worth it. There are a LOT of reasons it could be justified. She was invited to family birthday parties, dinner, holidays, etc. January 15, 2013, 12:17 pm. Do you really want to go to the party or do you just want your husband to stay home? Whatever they may end up telling you, at least you've gained a new perspective, and you'll most likely feel better just talking about what's bothering you. January 15, 2013, 3:56 pm. ktfran FML. January 15, 2013, 10:06 pm. paying my own bills and getting medical care). Go to those together. I would not expect nor respect a decision if my brother chose to leave his wife home and travel for this party. Its not a good or bad thing, it just is. Lists all the reasons your boyfriend was the complete opposite of OP. If that was the case however, I feel like you might have mentioned it. FireStar Ive had to fight my way into my in laws family, and they now know that we are a unit and they cant change that. So he has more room for others than he has for me? Sometimes we need to make sacrifices. Im with GG that he should still maintain a relationship with his family, but traveling that far is way too much for an event his wife wasnt invited to. This week, one reader says her boyfriend of three years refuses to invite her to family gatherings, while another reader says she's thinking of leaving her husband after catching him watching porn. It sounds like your inlaws are a problem. Melissa lets_be_honest Hes super close with his family & I have a good relationship with them as well. Other readers also suggest the possibility that the husband is lying about her being invited, and that he wants to go to Chicago alone. alright. nope. The couple in question fly into town for an engagement party - which they invite us to - we go and celebrate with them, I feel uncomfortable but am still kind and sweet. GatorGirl I have a wonderful husband, but I do not get along with his family. FireStar exactly my theory too- she is just looking for all of us to agree with her that her husband is terrible. This is all assuming he had a reason to say such a thing, like you previously and often saying you don't like big parties, refusing to go, complaints, etc. I have to say that something does sound a little fishy here. There are ways to deal with this feeling and make the best of the situation. All of a sudden it is so important that he is there. Especially considering the husband will be traveling half way across the country for this birthday dinner! Is this party SO AWESOME you need to cause some huge problem over it? WHY is she so rude to you? In my opinion, once youre married your spouse becomes your #1 ally in the world. My husband is passive and allowed the abuse for many years. However, this doesn't seem like one of those times. January 15, 2013, 10:29 am. I'm wondering if someone else who was throwing the party didn't want her there or something. is he really supposed to drop all his family because his wife doesnt life them? Some of them he even hid from me and still does not know that I know. WHY do you think you werent invited That is an excellent point jlyfsh. Yep, divorce rate and infidelity, gambling, addictions, marital strife. 39 Niya You may have even guessed as much, right? Neither of these things mean hes trying to squeeze in much-needed time with you, just your vagina. Whatever the reason, his exclusion signals youre not anintegral part of his emotional life. If you dont deserve it then be glad there is geographic distance between you and them and talk to your husband about establishing boundaries with his family. Has he wasted opportunities to smooth the relationship between you and his family because it was easier to remain neutral? And guess whaaat, not invited today either. Nothing has changed, he still doesn't invite me. Well thats where we differ. If in doubt, read Hes Just That Not Into You (Picture: New Line Cinema). January 15, 2013, 1:58 pm. reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2014): A she might see that as being needy/insecure. lets_be_honest Im floored by all the wisdom. P.S. I disagree with Wendys comments going straight to blaming you and questioning more things about other issues in your marriage. act like an adult! Who the fuck do you think you are? He is the person you really have a problem with. If hes not made your relationship public on social media and youve never met a single member of his family, you have a bigger issue than just not attending events. i just dont want to ever draw lines in the sand like that, GatorGirl For an optimal experience visit our site on another browser. If the SIL wouldnt talk to me, Id try others in the family, or ask my husband to do it. If his sister ever tried to pull off something like that he would tell her where to shove it! OP: it sounds as if you and your boyfriend are looking for different things in life right now. Although I am far from perfect, I did nothing wrong. It may not be the case for you, but your boyfriend may have some annoying family members. Only 2 months and 2 days til St. Patricks Day! Really, if this is all on the LW, and I get were all assuming it is, but it may not be, her husband should demand that she do whatever it takes to mend fences anyway. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Which indicates more and more that there is something more at play between the LW and his family, that she knows or thinks she wasnt invited. God is the best marriage counselor. Also, your bf is an asshole and this was such a dick move. For example, the husbands family may dislike her because she is of a different race, religion or culture. Id call her and say hey are we ok? However, maybe you're confused about why you weren't invited, and can't really think of a reason. I offered to drive because his car broke down and he is too low on money to order an uber. I think its the formality of the get-together. Related 11 Signs he doesnt see a future with you. Typically when couples have been together for over a year and it's a party with mutual friends it's going to be brought up at least a few times to everyone who they want there. Why doesnt he ask his sister why his wife wasnt invited? After 16 to 17 years of that, I felt like he didn't care about me. A pretty stand-up guy. Even if this causes a showdown or worse, you will have grown immeasurably by learning to assert your needs. Most of all, I was really hurt. It stung and the relationship with the person was never the same. I dont feel so bad for the husband. Some friends say it's a red flag, others say to leave it alone, because he might just not be close to his family. There are so many reason I can think of to why he wouldnt invite you to this party. ), so he goes to see his sister/family and the wife stays home. She didnt even say Im not sure why his sister would do this she said its gone unaddressed which makes me think she knows EXACTLY why the SIL excluded her, and that its probably for a good reason. Either invite them both or dont invite either of them. Its worth looking at the larger picture here and asking yourself if hes keeping you a secret from his family, or just doesnt want you to meet them? He should have dumped you year 1 and you would have given in to that seduction years earlier. Dr. They are not about excluding people. You know those people you ask them what they would like to do for their birthday and they are silent then they pout and mope when a big party wasnt thrown. he cant change her behavior either so then even if she is being a jerk, does that mean that he shouldnt go to her party? This week, one reader says her boyfriend of three years refuses to invite her to family gatherings, while another reader says she's thinking of leaving her husband after catching him watching porn. GatorGirl You are married and that makes you family. His sister lives in another state. You say you're trying to be more social, does he know this? I dont care what the LW did, her husband married her and brought her into his family and it is inexcusably rude for the SIL to not invite her to this party and for her husband to incur travel costs, etc. January 15, 2013, 11:56 am. Sorry, but this letter gives me n-o-t-h-i-n-g. All I can do is make assumptions. Can you check with the host to see if I can come along?" you cant be like, SIL- act like an adult! I am with Wendy on this one. (at first he said he wasnt going but )He just left to his brothers bday party without me. But now, with this invitation, my feelings have been confirmed. ), My Roommate Has No Friends! I go back on what I wrote earlier, I think you should contact the SIL directly and express some honesty I mean best case scenario it was a misunderstanding and your husband is a bit of a pushover, medium case is that your SIL is a nuts control freak and your husband is ok with that worst case is that there is something else going on in Chicago. 28/02/2023. You just proved why I never recommend dating people who have friends of the opposite sex, even more if those friends are single. Update: talked to him yesterday, said he was sorry and he thought I didnt like the places they hang out, and today none of his friends said hi to me, so lol, gg mates, thanks everyone. I find it convenient that the LW left out why she and the SIL arent speaking and why she feels she wasnt invited. We are honest about it and that's why it works. Just because they wouldnt expect or request those things, doesnt mean its not normal to offer. If he pushed back, you could have said "No, this is your party, and I'll feel resentful about it. Same with friends. When you get married, you ARE family, blood or not (lets hope for not). I dont think youre reaching. I've spent the whole afternoon/evening at home alone feeling down and upset because I feel excluded and like I missed out. I have talked to him about it in the past and told him it bothers me. i think that being upset is very valid and not weird, and then taking that and demanding that the husband not go, and then to say that it will wreck the integrity of your marriage are very different ways to go about this. im totally partying on st. pattys this year!! Hes gone down on you once; youve gone down on him no less than eight times. Heres 22 signs he absolutely, under no circumstances, wants to be your boyfriend. Visit Metro's Rush Hour Crush online every weekday at 4:30pm. and you should have went instead of moping around and being upset. I think it depends on the relationship though too. 20. 6 Amazon travel essentials for your next getaway, starting at $12. You aint gonna be the next Kim and Kanye with a fool like him Nope. TaraMonster That way, they'll hopefully have some idea about why you've been left out. They get the best of both worlds in that scenario. It sounds like your husband has already decided what hes going to do and thats to attend his sisters party. Just dont make this more difficult on him than it already is. epic. there is a reason that your excluded. Or wait, dont wait. Or I cant imagine why theyd exclude me, everything seemed fine the last time we got together., If I thought everything was fine between my SIL and I, or my husbands family and I, and out of the blue I was not invited to a family celebration, my first thought would not be Alas! Let him go spend time with them and be thankful that you dont have to partake in a boring small birthday dinner with some people that it sounds like you dont really enjoy! Here is what I have to say. The person responsible for the invites did not invite her for a reason whether it is to cause strife in the marriage or trying to remove the drama LW may bring but in doing this they are causing drama in and of itself. This is an out of state party, and to only invite her brotherYikes. That being said, take my advice with the grain of bitter salt. He didnt write those invitations, so there is really no reason to make it about him. For these reasons, talk to your close friends, preferably ones who know the party thrower or host. I understand how you feel though.It is like your hubby does not have your back. i dont think so. Hubby needs to stand by her. A Basically: "A person I thought was a dear friend is having a get-together and not only am I not invited but he/she is being all coy/silent about it." Believe me, I feel your pain and have no. Id be pissed! "I feel upset that I wasn't invited to party with mutual friends. Wow.So many comments.All I have to ask is what is the real backstory on you and his sister? He could even be a vampire for all you know. You deserve someone who wants to share their world with you. This one is difficult because we dont know enough to give a fair answer. I was upset with him doing this to me many times. Invent a healthier future by sharing your truth. January 15, 2013, 12:06 pm. Maybe the answer would have been "no". Relationship expert Dr. Gilda Carle cuts through the fluff with her love advice in TODAY.com's "30-second therapist" series.Q: My boyfriend of almost three years will not invite me over to his place or. I dont know. When you casually mention you have no weekend plans, he doesnt jump in and suggest you hang out. And when he didn't answer, you didn't push back? 10 blunt-but-loving ways to tell people they're not invited to your wedding While there's no way to make everyone happy, I do believe that there are a few key phrases you can use to let uninvited guests to that you love them, you SO appreciate their interest, but no: they're still not invited. Its the exact opposite! Struggling to Understand, Contrary to your friends opinions, boyfriend appears to be close enough to his relatives to go to their family eventsbut not with you. GO PRE-SAVE MY NEW SONG: ON MY MINDhttps://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/levcameron/on-my-mindHey everyone it's Lev Cameron, @PiperRockelle boyfriend. Whether your SIL is just mean and doesnt like you, or whether youve done something so off-putting to her that she doesnt want you around on her birthday. Well that just sounds like an annoying person, way different that normal people who just like birthdays! January 15, 2013, 10:39 am. by making a big deal out of a birthday, and inviting out of town people, you get to have a nice special time with all your friends and family! His family, his veto, he gets to chose. AS I wrote above your new family the woman you married and perhaps the children you may have should come before your old family in terms of general priorities. This shouldnt undermine the entire integrity of you marriage. Readers from more normal families may have trouble fathoming the depth of the dysfunction in my family, and may assume that I must be at fault because only very serious issues would cause them to act in such a mean fashion. Quite pathetic if you ask me. I cant imagine asking/telling my SO to never go there again. January 15, 2013, 10:52 am. If he does not help to resolve this issuewhatever it ishe is opening the door for his wife to be excluded from everything and saying its okay for the discord in the family to continue. January 15, 2013, 10:58 am. If it were me, I would strongly request that my husband not go. I found this blog because I am going through something dead on. I would take some quality me time and enjoy having the tv remote to myself, clean out some closets one day. January 15, 2013, 9:51 am. Hes constantly on his phone when hes not with you, which doesnt really explain why he takes so long to reply to you. reader, Aunty BimBim+, writes (3 May 2014): Already have an account? January 17, 2013, 4:26 pm. He is the natural player to broker a peace and is doing nothing to help! I would like to know more, like why her husband hasnt inquired about her exclusion. Image credits Photo by Ins Castellano on Unsplash. You need someone who can be your rock to lean on, but it doesn't seem as if he can be that for you. he wouldnt stand up for me there.. Steeze And, if the LW is so awful that the husband totally gets why no one in his family wants to see her, then thats a marital issue they need to address. Do you two get along?If you do please pick up the phone and just like call her. January 15, 2013, 11:57 am. Ok, ok, we can be friends again. 152. reader, chigirl+, writes (3 May 2014): A Your email address will not be published. I feel like if anyone is going to say anything to her, it should be me. You Go Girl January 15, 2013, 9:32 am. Anyway, my cousin decided to stay with his wife after a separation of several monthsI know a few people encouraged him to leave her, but pretty much everyone just said Ill support whatever you decide to do. Everyone acted like adults, because it was his decision and in the end it wasnt truly our business. I thought that was like a given.and yes even the most intimate family gathering ALWAY includes my husband and he is now a part of the family. Yeah, I feel like theres been a few letters like this & theres always SOME kind of hint We just got married a year ago & the family never warmed to me. seems to be a common reason. What would be the purpose of your husband skipping his sisters 40th birthday party? He handled this in an incredibly tactless and disrespectful way. lets_be_honest Red_Lady January 15, 2013, 4:01 pm. less than twelve hours before we are to depart, he tells me that no one is going to be at the house and there is no where for the children to go. SevenEleven He didnt even introduce you. Pitting your wife against your sister when you have no intention of weighing in could be a disaster! I can only guess that I must have done something to offend her but Ive racked my brain and truly have no idea what it was. We dont have enough information to encourage the high or low road. Addie Pray January 15, 2013, 11:28 am. /r/Relationships is a community built around helping people and the goal of providing a platform for interpersonal relationship advice between redditors. The SIL is going to look like a jerk either way, husbands attendence or not. I would have chimed in much earlier but Im only just now reading the responses after getting my kids to bed. Even if my SO said he wouldnt bc of me, I still think Id tell him to go. January 15, 2013, 9:24 pm. I think that your husband should respect YOU first, man up and take you with him whether or not if you are invited. Addie Pray After all, hes with you and Im assuming other people know about your relationship. But I expect adults to be able to act maturely and not exclude a family member from an invitation for something petty. thats a little controlling, no? Feeling "meh" about them is not a reason to invite one but not the other. There could be a host of reasons for the invite, perhaps his friends think he's a @sshole for dumping you and by you turning up it'll look like like 'hey, she's cool with it'. Your ex could have gotten a totally swoon-worthy 'do that reminds you of Ryan Gosling during his Notebook days or Beyonc at the Grammys. Maybe your in-laws are awful people who treat you like crap and your husband never does anything to defend you. I just was thinking of my 30th and it was awesome having everyone in one place, many of them out of staters. Try and mess with our family. Cause thats who I am, a bitter stay at home wife of 4 with many many many outside distractions that (if Im not careful) could wreck havoc on my precious delicate marriage. January 18, 2013, 9:54 pm. Leave the drama in Chicago and simply say good riddance. However, this doesn't seem like one of those times. This is just how life is, and there's no avoiding it. sometimes you just have to live and let live, you know? But then one day, she had a little freakout where she told us all how rude we were , & somehow we never made her feel welcome. I agree. Sometimes you need to have fun with other people or on your own, that's fine. January 15, 2013, 4:43 pm. Great response, Wendy! Sue Jones 13. 18. fallenflower. It sounds like you resent the time and effort that he spends on his family, and that is just really sad. January 16, 2013, 9:10 am. Anyway, I couldnt imagine not inviting my sisters husband to some event. You did way too much for a party you weren't going to or even invited to. It sounds like theres no obvious reason why you arent included, and no concrete proof that youre not invited. January 15, 2013, 3:18 pm. Sure, shes a bitch to you, but dont be a bitch back to your husband because shes hurting you. A Concerned Girlfriend Took To Reddit Seeking The Advice Of Other Users After Learning That Her Boyfriend Planned A Vacation With His Female Best Friend And Did Not Invite Her. Theres been many an occasion when Ive been excluded from family events in the past (for birthdays to weddings), and while its always insulting, at this point, 10 years into the relationship and 5 years into our marriage, Im happy to let him go visit on his own. This never feels good, but you can never control how other people feel. Did she send a card addressed to him that said NO GUESTS or something? Lianne Victims often choose romantic partners who are abusive too, without even realising it. In fact in my family this would be more than a ridiculous request unless it was for an emergency emergency, it would be an insult we take care of each other, not enable each other to make bad decisions or fail to plan. The fact that the LW did not follow up I wasnt invited to the party with and I dont know why! is definitely glaring. And the challenges are easier to handle when youre in a better mood. To cut a long story short tonight is the boyfriends work xmas party, im not invited but expected to pick him up. The LW cant go into these dramatics about cracks in her marriage and expect people to be on her side without justifying why the exclusion is unfair (and I think it has to be a REALLY bad reason, like race or religion or the in-laws being abusive, for her to be this upset). January 15, 2013, 1:39 pm. It will also remind you of the people in your life who really matter, and who your true friends really are. Because shes the family favorite, that treatment is expanded to me by most of his family. Your boyfriend of a year doesn't invite you to his birthday party he would be my ex boyfriend Delete Report Edit Reported Reply Boost 7 Agree 1 Disagree January 15, 2013, 2:57 pm. well, but again, what is the husband going to do? January 15, 2013, 1:39 pm. Agreed! My husband and I got together both with kids from a previous marriage we have a 11 mo of our own! in general, you shouldn't expect other people to behave the way you would behave. Helping people, esp. Ive been married almost nine years, which is a drop in the bucket compared to some marriages, but certainly longer than half a second. We have a great marriage but it hasnt been a bed of roses, and I have the hair loss to prove it. He doesn't invite you to family events. Theres no reason to put everybody out because youre turning _____ old. But your boyfriend isn't responsible for that hurt and he's been placed in an awkward position of either upsetting you by attending the wedding even though you weren't invited, or hurting his close friends, thoughtless as they may appear, by missing one of the most important events of their lives. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. January 15, 2013, 11:42 am. MyGilda-Gram advises, If you need to beg for it, there is no love., Girlfriend, youve got to change your approach. Regardless what the reason is and whether its justified and, yes, I do believe there could be justification for excluding a family members spouse to your party though it would have to be a really big deal the bottom line is that your husband has been invited and you havent and now you both have some decisions to make. Until recently I didnt really notice him not calling me ANYWHERE, even though I already know his friends, and some of them even before I knew him. that is a pretty legit thing, and if i remember right we have had letters about that before. January 15, 2013, 11:37 am. Really, hes the only one to feel bad for if you ask me. And Im saying I think your friend and MIL where in the wrong when they did that to you. also, really, WWS about this *rocking* the integrity of your marriage. I dont see how youre putting someone out by inviting them somewhere. Hey LW, just wanted to say that a) Im excited that you updated because we were all curious! Do you feel disrespected by your husband in general? What should I do? Weve had some very stressful times that challenge a marriage but have ultimately made us stronger. January 15, 2013, 10:44 am. (10 Tips for Handling This! lemongrass You've accepted that you weren't invited, for whatever reason, which is good. My advice is a bit different. So let your husband go to the party, stop pitting him against his family, and stop basing the stability of your marraige on his willingness to dump his family for you. Its not the end of the world if you spend one evening apart from your spouse. It Was a Last Minute Decision I would tell my husband to go and plan fabulous things to do that weekend on my own with my friends, family, or kids. Thank god for my husband! Do you think his love for me is fading? I totally agree. I always imagine Im giving advice to one of my friends after reading letters and I feel like the first question I would ask is, WHY do you think you werent invited. On the one hand, I totally see Wendys point. I would never, and I do mean never, accept a family invitation sent only to me and not my husband, simply because we are a unit and the strength of our relationship is the foundation of my life; at the end of the day, I come home to my husband, not my extended family. I hope LW thinks long and hard about all your follow up questions. I guess its because I feel so terrible about not being invited but yet he is still choosing to go. By: Alexandra Brown, University of Illinois. So last week i hung out with him and his friend and watched a movie and then he invited me to his house. They do it because they are evil and know it and they have to blame the victim. While I cant promise its a simple reason why your boyfriend never invites you to family events, hopefully, you now feel much more confident about talking to him about it. lets_be_honest If you ask to go out with him and you get a lot of pushback now, he's probably already cheating on you physically or emotionally. So many little issues come up in marriage. If thats the case, where SIL refuses to invite new family members, SIL is a crappy person. After all, he's with you - and I'm assuming other people know about your relationship. (Heres How to Handle It), 24+ Clean Comebacks for Bullies Thatll Make You Smile, Is My Boss a Narcissist Quiz (10 Questions to Help You Find Out! the husbands family member was getting married in a very small ceremony, so small that only immediate family was invited? Some are worth putting your foot down about, and some just arent. If she was the affair that broke up her husbands previous marriage (which we dont know if there was one) and he has kids from that marriage who will be at the party then I can see his family refusing to invite her. My boyfriend didn't invite me to his birthday party, because he said that there are too many people there. Take the high road. She should just MOA! I dont know how to handle a situation that hasnt happened yet. Its not so different in families. Sometimes when someone is being a total douche, you just gotta sit back and allow them to show their cards. I think he should have invited you, or asked the host if it was okay to invite you and then invited you. I agree with this, but I think that the husband is hurting the situation. The difference is, I expect him to stand up for me with his family. My boyfriend was like you, not interested in meeting any of my friends or doing anything together. (You know that old saying that in order to have friends you first have to be one.) 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