Stay away from me!" Ihave neglected you. I am a Marvel hero, as you have said. NOTHING HELPED. My husband is terrible when it comes to this. It was miserable. If I am not in his presence at the moment, I am not on his mind. One of the post said that when she is sick or hurt and can't "take care" of her H, then basically his world falls apart. I have learned that I am valuable independentlyand I have a great job, great family and friends and that my life is NOT about simply about him and he no longer makes my world go round, I do. Theyve been together for 15 He went to the session and was diagnosed with PTSD and ADHD. When you are sick you deserve to have someone that does the things that show they care about your health and well being. So he's taking it easy today and napping on and off. And, to feel loved in return, you need to be sexual with each other. 50K views, 259 likes, 10 loves, 511 comments, 68 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Dr. Phil: He Eats a Raw Animal Meat Diet #rawmeat #DrPhil #talkshow Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Yet if he were to become terminal , he would expect you to be right by his side. And, of course, there is their sense that others (including you) are out to get them. Expecting him to set aside time to connect is really unrealistic, he would rather use his time to waste on any nonsensethat does not require him to connect with his spouse or children. There's lots of reasons he may have decided to not come over, and 99% of them aren't the selfish stuff you're thinking of. He did - but was very angry and mean about it. The codependent wife moved back without his help and then he said he wasn't going back to therapy after one session. I had started a new job so I could not take him to get his surgery, but I did leave work early, come home and take care of him, make chicken soup, the whole deal. All this crap about his kids "coming first" is just thatcrap. God forbid that I ever get anything serious. He is generous to others but asks me when I can pay him back. In the first instance, you get his buy in. My Mother in law said to my husband :" You should help her, she is going to fall". This goes so deep. Sign #9: He treats you like everyone else. When he arrived, he did not hug me, ask how I was, or show ANY CARE. All part of marriage, I guess. (Sadly, he was not compliant enough with the whole thing and it didn't work). Or pulled a muscle in my back. That's life. not good. I start my day with positive thoughts of not retaliating, not overthinking, and not trying to change what I can't control. Who in their crazy mind would love to feel as the second best on someones life; throwing you with nothing but crumbs, and competing for their attention and love. Many years ago I had appendicitis. I was too kind, wanting to help TOO much, and didn't set boundaries. Some people are very loving and caring, others are pretty avoidant. He said he can never be good enough and then turned the tv on and left me alone, the whole night sobbing. I gotvery sick from what I ate. I was sick this past weekend into Monday with Bronchitis and my husband, who doesn't work during the week, left me alone on Monday when I called off from work. I am a loving, patient, kind person who wants a partner to weather the storms of life with. WebMy (soon to be) ex wife had little sympathy whenever I was sick, and honestly it really sucked. I always wished I had the guts to leave him but the codependencykept me there. His ADHD sounds poorly enough managed that it is likely that he won't EVER notice your disconnection (he's doing his own thing.) WebMaybe he's the kind of person who doesn't want to be bothered when he's sick. If you DON'T have any kids yourselfplease run extra far. Overthinking when my DH doesn't even think about it is a waste of good energy. I take care of her in sickness and in health.but our kids still come first. Not flu/COVID/serious illness. Do I wish that were not the case? And that was just with a scratchy throat. That's why the 'pursuit' or 'in your face' strategy that you are using fails. (again, fear). My SO is not yet undergoing any kind of treatment. Because in his mind, I'm supposed to be taking care of him.not the other way around. My wife wants to be left alone all I want is take care of her just be there for her to help her I don't understand when I'm sick I love for her to take care of me maybe just hold my hand any one can help me, After 22 years of marriage , I've learned this the hard way and am done once our oldest has graduated high school. Recallingthe time I told him I was really sick in the morning before swim workout and he told me I had to go anyway? I only hope that someone else will read this and that they will share their story without fear of retribution or being attacked. Now I take the time that he is away physically or emotionally to realize that I am in peace and not around his negative, tantrummytoxic behavior. Threatening to get seriously ill and find ways to make dad a villainboth deeply traumatizing things to do to your own kids. My husband didn't help me with anything around the house. What symptoms first occurred in I do not think I will see a lasting change because myspousewith ADD is alwaysout for himself. Fortunately, theres a First of all, you have to stop with the drama of begging him to come take care of you! This has been a transformation in more ways than one. I am flaberggasted. But I believe I am blessed with many friends. After my surgeries, I couldn't do ANYTHING. The only family Im in contact with is my 91-year-old mother who lives an hour away. How would you like her to act? You go through all of this, the burden of having a partner with a chronic illness who is always sick, the worry when I dont text back for a while and you know Im home alone, the household chores I cant do, not because you dont care about my illness, but because you care about me. I know some have stated this, others have said the opposite. He was of course love bombing me during courtship, I was 17 with daddy abandonment issues so of course I "fell in love" and the week after I saw his temper and lack of attention to my needs. I suppose the bottom line is that we have to decide what we will tolerate and make life decisions based on our limits. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. WebIs it normal for a husband to not take care of his wife when she falls sick? Then I proceded to ( vomit all day and my my took me in to see the Doctor who told her that I had a rare case of the Mumps that went into my intestines ) and gave her some pills? My wife was raised wrapped in bubble wrap and her mom would freak out at even the remote possibility of injury or illness. Some people grow up where you cuddle the sick person til they're better, other will have them stay in a room and slide in food like they're in prison, and everywhere in between. He doesn't seem to catch up or even see it. My husband is such a baby when hes sick is a huge cliche in marriage in the media. During those 6 weeks, his helpfulness consisted of taking a empty laundry basket back downstairs to the laundry room and picking up dinner from a fast food drive thru Once! After 2 years of therapy for myself, I am in a better place. So, again, it's about him. WebNo, that's not normal in a loving marriage. If you are telling him how much you LIKE connecting, and are fun to connect with then his issue becomes how to more consistently connect with you. Tell your spouse that although you Ask for forgiveness. This detachment causes children to grow up detached from making intimate friendships and relationships as an adult, to closely love others. And I take. He refused to tend to me as I was going into shock. She used to tell me, (when speaking of my husband), "I liked him, he never BOTHERED ME", and would praise him for leaving her alone, unlike her other children who " needed" her, as children DO. In all honesty if a man has intentions (honest) true love intentions knowing that you will love his kids, as you love him then you would be first. Have been married for 4years now. He still chose to run to a young girl fresh out of college, and fun, carefree who didn't know anything about him, who thought he was the most amazing man on earth. And your wife mightve been And all my dh could do was go on and on about how much the window was going to cost to replace it, and it was all my fault. Maybe I was expecting something like that. No wonder folks with ADHD have built up some walls. Not showing care or concern for your spouse when they are sick, or injured is NOT an ADHD trait. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. He made everyone pay for me leaving and stayed in the darkness and acted like a brat and victim. Maybe I'm just expecting a bit too much. I get dizziness, irritability, mood swings, left sided weakness, severe nerve pain, and killer headaches with my autoimmune attacks. He appears not to care youre pregnant and youre feeling unsupported. I am not overwhelmingly rude or obnoxious or in his face. Once shes mad, the first step to resolving it is by me apologizing. Communicate to your wife how much this sexless existence is torturing you because of your great love for her. I had to call my mother to take me.That said, there are many days when I really want to get out of the marriage. However, I work andtake care of the house and the kids. His sister died from alcoholism about 8 years ago, she was only 51. I shouldn't have to and I take very good care of myself after 27 years and a complete role reversal. Lately he finds more reasons than not to leave the house to help someone else anybody else. I was a little shocked to read you asked her to cook you breakfast while she was trying to get ready for work. An epiphany. If the ADHD'er is unwilling to get help then really it's not fair for the other person to be the only one to want to actively work at it. I just need a bit of support lol anyway, my wife won't be back until 4 PM. I am married for 10 years late in life now 60 ..and moved to Spain after 18 months I took the real flu I was in bed for 6 weeks with only sips of w The women (and a few men) who are married to someone with untreated or under treated ADHD all suffer from the something similar..A lack of love. He is Always the "Victim" and Everything is Always My Fault! There are times I still wonder how our husbands can continue to deny who they are, and why so MANY people, have difficulty with them. This means you may think it's obvious when you need a hug or some connection, but they may not 'see' it. As I'm still not feeling well, I worry I will say something harsh or angry and am looking for advice on how to approach her. It tends to be E>S in females, and S>E in males, and S>E in ADHD regardless of gender. After a month of separation, I was so happy that I started packing to go back. However I do notice every time I'm sick, my husband acts as if he sick. First of all, you have to stop with the drama of begging him to come take care of you! Or begging him to drive you home. I can understand mentionin All I can say is wow. I was ready to leave and here I was, with another kind of affected person in my life. Fortunately, I feel a little better now. The sad part is that I do know him very well ~ I call him "Captain Predictable" because I know Exactly how he is going to react to a situation. The reception was held at a house, in he back yard. How would he manage without me, his Bandaid? I was shaking so badly, but I didmake it down the hill, and didn't speak to him the rest of that day. Whichever it is, I wasted most of my life trying to make something work that couldn't. 50K views, 259 likes, 10 loves, 511 comments, 68 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Dr. Phil: He Eats a Raw Animal Meat Diet #rawmeat #DrPhil #talkshow I recorded it and ran to my room in tears and he knew I was crying since the 3rd person, a teenager, begged him to get help and to console me. It CHANGED ME, and I'm not who I used to be. But I text him and found out his wife was bipolar and in and out of hospitals. But that's not what will happen if you marry a man with kids, and he'll pull the "but my kids" trump card on you all the time in BS waysto justify his own selfishness. Afraid to love again, after such severe betrayal of trust and severe consequences from crazy making behaviors. The tender, close, intimate kind of love that touches your heart and soul, and makes you feel genuinely connected in a deeper emotionally inter-connected way. You only get 1 life and your life matters, period. Even worse when these DisneyDaddys, lol are looking for a life partner, the first thing that they rub on your face is the: my kids come first b.s. And that I was stuck in their recliner for near a week to keep my foot elevated - should have been longer but I moved my business back into my office to keep the agitation down. I can not tell you how much I can relate to you and everyone else that has posted. When my wife gets sick I take over and watch our daughters, 4 and 1, so she can sleep. Thank her sincerely for doing these things to you inspite of her 'reservations'. Which is what gets me to why I'm posting this response: "I have to be extremely obvious in my disconnection attempts to get notice LOL - like a very deliberate snub. "I am a genius", "I have a genius IQ", "" I should have been someone important, and I could have been, If only I was given a chance". Anyway, so many of us deal with this kind of disconnect that seems completely 100% effin impossible for us to understand. Its me, me and my illness, that dominate our life. Then he kept telling me I was going to be alright. I want to say Thank you for sharing your story. Nearly 17% were estranged from a member of their immediate family. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! Yes my H also has ADHD, but it's not ADHD that causes his horrible behaviors, particularly when I'm sick/injured. Just gotta get used to it! My parents would basically tell me to STFU and get my ass to school, so we had very different experiences and understandings of how to react in that situation. I thrive from who I am independently although I still try to be a good wife and hold down most of the responsibilities that keep our family looking good for the most part. Even says just because I am sick, he is not going to pet me. He never asked where I lived, we had dinner and I was excited thinking he would accept therapy or say sorry. This is a personality disorder. Everyone, strangers and those that love and tolerate him see an issue. Please share ~ the relief is amazing! I have an illness. I've been reading the posts for the last few weeks with great interest. Iv been with my partner only 2 years yet everytime hes sick he bails out to go with his mates or even when I'm not sick, that or either on his game all day. I know the empathy is in there, but it's overridden by the rest of their experience and the onslaught of perception they constantly have to sort through. We don't have kids yet. Obviously. Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. Get hand-picked resources and highlights from our Mighty community straight to your inbox. We've been married 17 years. Sometimes, he can be vindictive in a passive way, like after I left him for that one month. (We do imitate our parents). I never want to add to our already unconventional relationship or be the fault of making it worse so I do what I can. (he can't) He pinches pennies, in trying to fix something that he's usually broken himself, but then it ends up costing us double or triple in do-overs. Hi. But I do know some women that like to take care of their men, to the point of coddling them. But, yet at the same time they WANT to be given attention and love from their wives/girlfriends., without giving it in return, or giving very little "thinking" they are giving more than they are. I don't think there is a way to forgive things like this. I am a partner though, specifically yours. Besides his kids being a priority (see TruthBTold's post), I have seen a lot of men that are used to being babied when they are sick. Make sure that the timing is convenient for both of you. Well, this time, I was calm, I got out of the car and changed my mind but he told me to get back in. Would she normally kiss you before going to work? She was in her second semester of college and was busy with school and work. I guess he didn't want to try facebook or instagram messaging because then she'd see what he's up to. If I ever mention his behavior of that day, he gets mad at me and tells me that "I Never let things go and that I am to blame because I can't "forgive" him". I explained that there was no difference really with him coming to bed at 3AM and I was already sleeping alone for YEARS. But the AD/HD is so strong, it overrides that. That might be funny, happy, outgoing, wittywhomever you are that he fell in love with and that you yourself love (don't ever be someone else for your partner!). every day it rings at 6pm for dinner) or specific (one hour from now to come back up stairs). You are right. But just like I learned when I lost my job two years ago, a job I thought defined me, one singular part of my life does not define me. My experience with ADD people is they are takers. I do believe the process may work if it s just adhd or adhd lite and there aren't significant co morbidities or emotional, physical or substance abuse and life is stable otherwise, ie no major financial complications. If anything, I am stronger in your eyes. Thank you for reminding me that it's me and my wife with each other now. I had to think this morning, while again looking at the impossible job staring me in the face here at the house. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. I will always do my best but not at the price of my sanity.". That's his job. Sign #10: Not protective over you at all. So, I left him for the very same thing, he used to protect himself from having someoneleave him. Now when Im sick I prefer to be left alone. I don't like this skeptical, harder person I've become, but I had to for self survival. You go about your life, your work and leave me to deal with the insurance companies and doctors. She doesn't care that I am in pain because she feels my feelings are unfounded. OMG. To us I should say. It may make it more difficult to resolve differences or conflicts and the same His kids are always going to come before you. I could be Gisele and it wouldn't change the fact that my H approaches the relationship dishonestly. He then proceeded to rip me a new one, in front of his parents. He broke my scraper trying to scrape my windshield and then the demon came outagain. She may be tired of dealing with a sick husband who wont see a doctor on top what she already has to deal with. Female here sick and tired of whiny twats like you. Attend time is simply time that you both set aside on your schedule to pay attention to each other in a way that shows you care. Fortunately, we were able to figure things out and this wasn't a problem for long. 3. That's just 2015 was the year that changed me some more. That's just great! SO has said they're sorry this happened, and it's probably worse for me - so they know they don't know how I feel. I would like to see him live with this and all the pain and cognitive dysfunction it causes. Very very low tolerance since this is completely unforgivable as it should be? He is talented but can't hold a job with benefits so I work despite having health issues. Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 22:58. A true and internal lack of gratitude for his own life that God has granted him, and gratitude for the lives that have been entrusted TO him, which is an honor and which is humbling for the soul who can SEE this fact. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 09:54. If you talk about how he's not connecting with you and that's disappointing to you, the issue is HIM. You don't want to marry a man with kids, trust me. Wise1. Until you are burnt out, and I finally notice something is wrong. Just the feeling at the moment. 2 months ago I had a Hysterectomy. Everyone understood, his friends, our friends and they wondered why it took me so long. This is the response of a person who lives in the present. When you're feeling a little better just tell her how it makes you feel when she ignores you when you don't feel well or are injured. When my husband started his first affair, I WAS a good woman. This is the extent of OUR now/not now difference when it comes to love. What should I do? (Soup after you just threw up is too soon). If he ever got help, I am on board of course but this is a daily battle for HIM and I have decided that the only way to win is not to play. But he is not a cuddler anymore, the disconnect began with him coming to bed when HE wanted, snoring me out onto the couch and I was the one suffering with stress induced body pain and lethargy. I never get any sympathy from him, but my children hug me, draw me upside down rainbows because I am in pain and can't smile, and try to help me. Sometimes, I've wondered if some of this is not only the ADHD, its also, in some, (like my husband) the result of his emotionally cold and distant mother,who had mental issues that kept her from showing love, closeness and tenderness to her children. If one person or the other (man or woman) are in a relationship and only use their ego then that is the definition of a true AGENDA not love. But at the end of the day if it is really bothering you well then you need to talk to him about it and tell him how it made you feel. I only wanted to make things easier on myself, for three nights a week. 5 signs of an unsupportive husband during pregnancy. A therapist can help you evaluate the factors that have led you to this step and then offer advice about how to best proceed. OP, assuming you guys have been married for a long time, possibly for more than five years and your work is what gets u sick and hurt regularly, I'm guessing she was not always like this. Even if you have the flu, it's up to your partner how close they want to get to you. I was "out of commission" for 6 weeks. ever heard of obsessive compulsive personality disorder? I love sex.while I am in the act of doing it..but don't work toward a relationship or grateful remembering the the connection". It was a high pressure job in sales and recruiting, with a manager who later got in trouble for harrassingstaff and being absolutely unprofessional. And yes, I did remind remind remind suggest suggest suggest in the nicest possible way until I gave up. Do you think you can suggest implementing some of those changes without it dissolving into a fight? Isn't THAT ironic? And vice versa. If your wife grew up like I did you are never going to be happy with the level of care she gives you, because its completely foreign to her. He was so sick he couldn't even think well enough to do his homework. There's definitely a disconnect. You know where I keep my emergency information, when to call 911. It seems likely he would like the opportunity to feel affection from you, as wellso perhaps would be motivated. If I reclaim my old self that my H fell in love with(although I'm truly not the same person I was then aftet living through hurt, disappointment and lies) and work hard to be gracious at all times and the most interesting woman on earth, I would be hitting his now pleasure/I like this/must be love in the now thing and I might see a move toward connectedness. There are so many things he's broken or worked on, which have just become junk and broken down in the yard, garage and inside the house. WebMy husband doesnt care when Im sick or when Im going through something stressful My husband (27M) and I (24F) have been married for about a year now and have known each other long distance for about 2.5 years. I love(d) H, and love (past, present and future)our children, our grandchildren, art, my business, my home. I'm tired . I'm not sure about what's being discussed about men. Then came 2013, January. 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